Cosmetic surgery etiquette: How to talk about it

September 21, 2012

Cosmetic surgery etiquette: How to talk about it
Cosmetic surgery etiquette: How to talk about it

Cosmetic surgery has come a long way. What was once considered an entirely taboo topic has now been embraced by a large segment of the population. According to the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery, there were 9 million surgical and nonsurgical cosmetic procedures performed in the U.S. in 2011 alone.

Like any trend, cosmetic surgery comes with its own "rulebook" of sorts. If you suspect someone you know may have undergone plastic surgery, it's simply not polite to blurt out and ask him or her. If they have gone under the knife, they may not be too eager to share this fact with everyone they know. If they haven't, then it might put you in an awkward position.

According to Contra Costa Times, etiquette guru Mary Mitchell, a columnist who authored the The Complete Idiot's Guide to Etiquette, recently penned an article about etiquette guidelines for friends, family and colleagues of individuals who may or may not have undergone plastic surgery.

"When we change the way we look, it almost automatically changes the way others react to us," Mitchell told the news source. "It's incredibly rude to come out and ask about it. Wait for them to tell you. If it's really obvious, give the person an opening, like 'Gee, you look great. What's your secret?' And say that without sarcasm."

If you were aware that someone was going to undergo a plastic surgery procedure, Mitchell advises, another good question to ask upon their return is, 'How are you feeling?" 

No matter your opinion of plastic surgery, it's essential that you withhold judgment. Keep in mind that cosmetic procedures can often be invasive and require a significant recovery time, so it's always polite to ask someone about their health, first.

Of course, not everyone will want to keep their plastic surgery procedure a secret. Many people are very proud of their results, and will be eager to share their experiences with those who are interested. Telling others about plastic surgery can help reduce some of the stress that naturally comes along with an invasive procedure. It also may help them clear the air if they have undergone a drastic change in their appearance.


The mission of the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ASAPS) includes medical education, public education and patient advocacy. Plastic Surgery News Briefs are summaries of current stories found through various news and magazine outlets that relate to or mention plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. The views expressed in these news articles do not necessarily reflect the opinions of ASAPS, but are merely published as an educational service to our members and the general public. For additional information on these subjects and other plastic surgery related topics, please go to www.surgery.org

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The American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ASAPS), is recognized as the world’s leading organization devoted entirely to aesthetic plastic surgery and cosmetic medicine of the face and body.  ASAPS is comprised of over 2,600 Plastic Surgeons; active members are certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery (USA) or by the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Canada and have extensive training in the complete spectrum of surgical and non-surgical aesthetic procedures. International active members are certified by equivalent boards of their respective countries. All members worldwide adhere to a strict Code of Ethics and must meet stringent membership requirements.

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